Weddings

Getting Married

MarriageYour wedding day is one of the most important days in your life, and we feel very honoured and excited when a couple chooses to be married in one of our churches. So we aim to do whatever we can to help make the day extra-special.

Weddings at our churches

Weddings have been celebrated at our churches for hundreds of years and we wish that to continue. We would love to talk to you about your plans and eligibility to be married here. If you live in one of our parishes your first step is to contact the relevant parish office for availability and to begin the discussions about your plans.

You have a right to be married in our parish churches provided one of you either:

    • lives in the Parishes of Elstead, Thursley, Shackleford or Peper Harow, or
    • is on our Church Electoral Roll or
    • has a “Qualifying Connection” with the parishes, and
    • provided neither of you has a divorced spouse still living

If that is the case, please arrange your meeting with the Rector in the normal way, and your particular situation can be discussed further.

You can find out what a “Qualifying Connection” is on yourchurchwedding.org

To arrange an initial discussion and book in your preferred date and time, contact Rev Hannah.

What if one or both of us are divorced?

If you are divorced and your former spouse is still alive, then you may well still be able to marry in church; it’s just that you do not have a right to do so. Whilst we affirm marriage as a lifelong commitment, we recognise that some marriages do fail for all sorts of sad and painful reasons.  Each couple’s circumstances will be different, but please contact us and we will be pleased to talk through with you the possibility of remarriage in church.

Wedding preparation & the marriage service

Your wedding is an exciting day, but it is only the first day of your married lives. As part of your preparation for marriage, we recommend that you attend a marriage preparation course if you can.

It is good to think about planning your service before other things take over. You will need to choose music, hymns and readings. You will also need to consider what flowers you would like in church. There are many helpful websites that enable you to think more about what to consider when planning you wedding.

Weddings in another Church

If you live in this parish and are planning to get married in another church you will still need to complete a banns form, and send a copy of it to the minister of the church in which you wish to get married. We read the banns in church at the morning services on the first three Sundays of the month.

Contact the relevant Church Office to make an appointment to complete a banns form.

Which parish do I live in?

To check your local parish church visit achurchnearyou.com and enter your residential postcode. If you have more than one address your banns of marriage will need to be read in each relevant parish, in addition to the church in which the wedding service is to take place.

How much will a Wedding or Dedication in church cost?

The fees for weddings change each year. The parish priest will explain more once a wedding has been booked. A deposit is required to secure each wedding.

Current virus outbreak conditions mean we are unable to visit you in person to discuss, but please do still give us a call for an initial discussion.