The passing of a loved one is never an easy time. We will do all we can to support you through this difficult time. Everyone is entitled to either a burial service (funeral) or to have their ashes buried in their local parish churchyard so please feel able to contact us regardless of whether you attend church or not. We are able to help with a service at one of our churches or at the crematorium.
If you live within the parish of Elstead, Thursley, Shackleford or Peper Harow, or have a connection to our churches, you may like to hold the funeral service at one of our churches. The ministry team are very happy to talk with you about the possibilities. The service can include a Eulogy or talk about the person’s life, time for reflection, music on CD & ipod via the church sound system or played live on our pipe organ, readings (of which one would be from Holy Scripture), poems and the things that mean something to you and those gathered. The funeral may also take place within the context of the Eucharist or Holy Communion. The service in church may then be followed by a committal leading to cremation at a local crematorium or burial in a local cemetery of your choice.
Your first step is to appoint a funeral director and then contact the relevant Parish Office.
Burial of Ashes & Book of Remembrance
Finding a place in which to remember those we love is very important. Our gardens of remembrance are prayerful spaces of beauty and contemplation where the ashes of loved ones can be buried. The gardens are located within the churchyards. Prior to the burial of ashes a brief service is held in the church, before moving to the garden for internment.
Although we are unable to mark individual burial plots in the garden, we do keep a Book of Remembrance in church which is inscribed quarterly and your loved one’s entry can be included, with a picture of your choice, upon request. Contact the relevant ministry team for more information or to request a burial of ashes in our Gardens of Remembrance.
Pastoral care and support
Whatever life throws at us it is important to know that somebody is there. Our ministry team are very happy to meet with you and listen. Many have found great comfort and support at times of bereavement or personal loss in the church family and the knowledge that others are remembering them in their prayers. Don’t be afraid to ask for a minister to visit you or just come along to church and see for yourself.
Being prepared … planning for the future
Whilst many of us don’t like to talk about dying, it will come to us all and being prepared is really important. Often when we meet with families they say, ‘I don’t really know what they would have liked.’ Well, we can help our relatives by thinking about the things that are important to us and writing them down so they have something to help them when planning our funeral service.
This may seem strange, but it does really help those whom we love when we are no longer around to do so.